The Donut Shop

There’s something about the box. In order to the get the “box” you have to buy 12, so we rarely do. We have really changed our diet quiet dramatically and definitely don’t do this often, but sometimes the pink box calls and sometimes it is best to listen.


A few weeks ago, I sat with my littles at the donut shop. I put the purchased donuts in the center of the table and we each take a fourth of the different kinds. It equals a whole, but you get four different kinds. Perfect. Why eat one whole donut when you can eat one whole donut made up of four different kinds?

As we sit on the run down vinyl chairs, a woman walks in with four children of her own, and she begins talking to the police offer, perfectly placed in my favorite donut shop. {The use of the word favorite implies that I have tried multiple donut shops and have chosen this as the top choice. Guilty. Donuts tend to be my favorite junk food.} They make some small talk and he asks where the children go to school. She says, “I homeschool”. I literally want to jump and scream and go “me too” “me too”. It is like I realize we are part of some secret society and I need for her to know I am a member. I sit silent and in utter astonishment, as I hear the police offer begin to give heartfelt praise her for her education choice. He tells her what a wonderful option homeschooling is and how awesome it is that she is giving that gift to her kids. I sat watching wishing it was appropriate for me to get up and hug them both, but then I remember my children (2 of which are teens). I realize it would probably cause permanent scaring to them. There is no way that they could wrap their hormone supercharged brains around why their mom is hugging total strangers…in the donut shop, over homeschooling. I refrain.

My desire to hug ran deep because I remember the not too long ago days where I would just get mortified at the sideways glances people give over our education choice. My kids have been made fun of for being home schooled. I have been the recipient of strong opinions against our homeschool choice. Homeschooling is tough and all of the disagreement and objections can make it SO much harder. Hearing these two kindred spirits made me happy. I agree with them. I agree wholeheartedly. It is a wonderful option.

As I enter my fifth year of homeschooling, I am so at peace. There are definitely challenges. Challenges for me, challenges for my kids, and challenges in our home. BUT challenges, or the lack there of DOES NOT DEFINE or confirm God’s will in our life. They never should. He does that.

After an over busy summer, I find my self burned out, struggling to keep my head above water with all of the responsibilities I have in the next month. Yet, I realize that my God, who created the universe,  made 24 hours in the day and that is enough. I no longer pray for more time, but pray to discern how to use the time I have been given. As I shift focus these last 27 days before the new school year begins {on Sep. 9th} from daily playing, to deep cleaning and organizing the house, preparing curriculum, decorating and organizing the classroom, and trying to discern what needs to be completed and what should be set aside, I can say it is well with my soul. {one of my favorite songs of all time.} Last Friday, I unexpectedly found myself strolling through an antique shop and my heart stopped as I saw this little guy hanging there for just $5.00. {Ever since seeing, this I have been wanting to display those words in my home}.


Fast forward to yesterday. Back to the donut shop and I am paying. There is a gentleman who has been talking to the clerk. He is an older man, likely in his 70’s, he says “why are women only nice before they are married?” His eyes are twinkling with fun. I chime in,”hey, I have been married for 18 years and I am still nice”.

“You look nice” the gentleman says.”What’s your name, young lady”?


“That’s a cute name. A real cute name. Where’d you meet your husband?”

“Church… and today he is a worship pastor.”

“He says no wonder you are happy. Have a GREAT day, today, Darcy”

“I will” and as we say our good byes and I walk away, pink box in hand, I hear him say, “thats a real cute name, Darcy. I like that.”


That man had a twinkle in his eye like no other. It made me happy.  Sometimes donuts hit the spot like no other. Many times I feel like there isn’t enough hours in the day. Yesterday I woke up crying because of the sheer exhaustion life can bring. Then we got up, ate donuts, and did a little swing dancing in our back yard, and it was good.

Today, my to do list is longer than Santa’s, naughty or nice list.

But It is well with my soul.



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7 Responses to The Donut Shop
  1. Heidi (Dearly Loved Mist)
    August 14, 2013 | 12:59 pm

    Such a cute post. And I don’t even like donuts unless they’re fresh and hot…at an apple orchard. But I do like homeschooling and your name and the fact that you refrained from hugging strangers for your kids’ sake. Although, I must say, I don’t know if I could have exhibited such self-control. 😉

  2. Cara Yeh
    August 14, 2013 | 3:03 pm

    Awesome story! Oh, how I wish we could have donuts together! 🙂 And, I am right there with you over stressing about time; but it is well with my soul, too, and that is a gift! We start Monday — pray for me!

  3. Naturally Carly
    August 14, 2013 | 7:08 pm

    Oh….I have the same reaction out in public…”We homeschool! We do, we do!!”

    What a fun story.

    My fave is the apple fritter. 🙂

  4. Dana
    August 14, 2013 | 7:29 pm

    You warm my heart!! I want to be like you when I grow up. Your energy and determination and love and character are more than commendable. Your children will rise up and call you blessed. They may not know it now, but they will. To quote you, “heart you”.

  5. Barbie
    August 14, 2013 | 11:21 pm

    What a great post. I truly enjoyed this story.

  6. Kelly @ View Along the Way
    August 21, 2013 | 12:51 pm

    Aww, I loved this post! I never realized you get such harsh criticism when you homeschool. We’re strongly leaning that way, and it’s good to know what we’ll be up against! Love your sign. <3

  7. Shelby
    August 22, 2013 | 6:19 am

    I just loved this post! Donuts, homeschool love and an adorable little old man…perfection!

    We are a homeschooling family as well and we are also starting our 5th year. We live in a town with a lot of homeschoolers, but even so we get a lot of strange looks and tons of comments. Actually, I’m not sure what we get more comments about…our choice to homeschool or the fact that we have five children. You would think people would learn to keep their negative thoughts to themselves. You know, that whole build others up thing? Anywho….there are occasions when someone will ask where the kids go to school and then proceed to tell me what a wonderful mother I am for making the choice to homeschool my children. I just love those folks. I could eat them up with a spoon. There is a particular clerk at Target that always says the sweetest things….I always choose her check out lane. 🙂

    By the way, Darcy is a great name!

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